I recall that during a Love Coach training that you were working with a couple that were ready to throw away and dissolve their relationship. It was quite apparent from their interchange with each other that they absolutely couldn’t stand each other. I thought to myself that no one can help this couple find love for each other. Yet, you were able to bring them into empathy with each other, help them understand each others needs, and before the session was over they were hugging again! You are a Master – Scott!
We both feel as if we are soul mates and it seemed as though we might not be able to stay together. After your program we spent a few hours discussing the tools of Compassionate Connections and it opened us both up. We spent hours discussing our current relationship in depth, how much it means to us, and what we can do to take the next step. I feel as if there is another level of relationship available to both of us and working together with this type of communication we can reach that level. Thank you for your work in this area and we are really looking forward to putting this to work in helping us reach that level.
Scott helps parents/children by providing some simple tools that encourage their emotional growth, and he’s a resource for the kid in all of us who may need to be reminded of the joy in our relationships.
First of all, Scott’s Compassionate Connections class is the best that I have ever experienced! This is real BIG…to NOW have specific tools that support opportunities to listen, share and make requests. My partner and I have found greater clarity, appreciation and empowerment in our daily lives and are able to have real authentic conversations with a calmness that was not there before. This means that we are connected more intently and are able to finally talk with each other with compassionate boundaries rather than volatile bursts of anger, loudness and a feeling of complete discomfort that was leading us in a downward spiral that we both thought was tragic and hopeless. We’ve truly created a higher level of tolerance, respect and love for one another. We both feel that we’ve been heard and love living in a playing field of unconditional acceptance.
Compassionate Connections will also be a very important pivotal point how we communicate this to our extended families, friends, our communities, and even those for one conversation, like the telephone company operator. They also respect and respond better to someone with compassionate needs, reassurance and understanding rather than someone yelling at them, calling them names and giving threats.
I look forward to experiencing life in a more grander way now that I am using Compassionate Connections. Scott, you are AWESOME!
Arion Jay Goodwin, San Diego, California
Scott has been INSTRUMENTAL in my journey towards cultivating a relationship that matches ME. As a coach with NVC training myself, I admire his high level of skill, persistence, and clarity when in sessions. Scott has a way of bringing conversations back around to their essence and kept us on track when we really needed it, while also allowing space for processing to occur. He has boldly given me feedback and direction which was completely unpalatable at the time, and which fully supported me in having a great life now. Scott has always held a firm respect for both me and my partner while also helping me to see more plainly my part in the matter(s). My work with Scott has been invaluable, has helped me let go when I needed to, and to remember that we are all just doing our best and that we all have precious needs which we are so intent to meet. I highly recommend Scott as a coach!
Karen Perry, Sebastapol, California
Thank you for providing an opportunity to explore ways to communicate compassionately. Scott’s style shows his beautiful, compassionate self and he gave concrete tools to practice from that place within ourselves.
Jim & Ruth Siress, Missouri
It took me years to fully open my heart and it is because I knew I would cry all the time. Now I am in joy and sadness all the time. Scott taught me to celebrate the sadness! The COMPASSION in the room allowed expansion of my heart, the pain was revealed and released – like a load off the chest. It was beautiful to be a part of everyone’s heart state. I am blessed to have been present in the healing space.
Scott, compared to all the other ‘alternative/holistic/metaphysical etc.’ events that I have been to, none have touched me quite as viscerally as you did.Scott, compared to all the other ‘alternative/holistic/metaphysical etc.’ events that I have been to, none have touched me quite as viscerally as you did.
Joan Brown, Las Vegas, Nevada
Thanks for all this yummy information!!! The main thing I’m working on, that you touched on, is finding a new relationship with the past. Having been abused, starting at a young age, I have a lot of triggers, I’m learning. It ranges from if I break something, my hands go up to protect my face to getting angry & shutting down when anyone calls me a variation on my name. I now know why I have those reactions but I am now wanting to NOT have any reactions! As I said, at my ripe age, I finally know real love & intimacy. I’m on my way & have a ways to go, but I’m loving my journey & won’t give up!!!! Thank you again for your inspiration!!!
Jane, San Diego, California
Scott is a wonderful teacher of Compassionate Connections and has been studying and practicing for many years. Scott brings humor, sensitivity, experience and a genuine love of sharing his gifts to all his sessions. This is a wonderful workshop to attend.
Ritch Davidson, Antioch, California
We are still vibrating at a high level with all the amazing and profound awakenings, openings, sharings and insights we had as a result of our time together on Saturday night. I’m feeling such gratitude for you and our new deepening of connection. Some of the reflections are still warming my heart and continue to keep my fire burning with ever-more passion for my life’s calling!
Heather Beth Hall, Monterey, California
Aloha 😉 your calls did the trick for me – I am applying Compassionate Communication and it is working for me. I am loving it
Hi, Scott, I want to share how much I appreciate your work and support. Although I’m challenged by the path my partner and I have taken of spending two weeks apart, I believe it was the right choice and I appreciate your help in supporting us in seeing that option.
I also appreciate your beautiful articulation of the concept of holding one’s own precious needs in one hand and the other person’s in the other and seeking to balance them. It helps me have a clear way to articulate what I want as part of the foundation of my relationships, in any aspect of life. I can see my relationship history of finding people who deeply enjoyed the way I met their beautiful needs and longings but who were not in a place that they could hold my needs in one hand and theirs in the other.
Regardless of the outcome with my partner, I feel that the work I’ve done with you will help me have greater clarity in looking at relationships and finding people who can meet me in that balance in my life. It also gives me a good way to articulate a balance to my clients and students- that image is a beautiful centered place that doesn’t fall to narcissism or co-dependence, nor people-pleasing.
The piece from our first session about my needing to grieve and mourn my disappointment about my partner not being ready for the steps I was wanting was hugely helpful. I was able to do that and come into greater clarity.
I also found it tremendously valuable to have someone else be the space holder so I could be with myself in terms of the experience. It was a huge relief to have someone with your skill to hold the container and make safe space for me to speak my truth. I can slip into being the space holder and participant in my relationships and, in going through this with my partner, it was keeping me from being as clear as I needed to be.
Katie, San Diego, California
Scott – Whatever planet you come from – I want to go there, live there, be one with your ‘people.’ You have amazing perception, clarity and compassion. Thank you, thank you, thank you, for taking us on and accepting this challenge. You are beautiful.
Dear Scott! We thank you soo much for the fabulous evening! Always inspired by your high level of consciousness, deep healing wisdom and super Light*! much Love~!!!
Sharka, San Francisco, California
Hi Scott, We met at Harbin Hot Springs during one of your workshops. I found the session very helpful and have enjoyed listening to some of your podcasts on UNITY.FM; I am back home in New Jersey, working through a few issues with my 22 year old daughter who is also my employee now that she has graduated from college with a fine arts degree with no major job prospects. Your tools have been valuable in our process.
Just want you to know how much meaning you brought into our lives with your workshop. We were both pretty skeptic at first about attending, but it was so much more powerful than we imagined. It has brought a lot of peace into our house which we never thought to be possible.
Scott, I just want you to know that it I really appreciate your connecting with me and I feel genuinely cared about by you 😉 you are a beautiful person and very talented facilitator… your passion and gifts are a wonderful service to others and I can see that you get so much joy in helping… I’ve listened to most of your radio shows and just love how you and ‘Shuchi’ Gabrielle provide a live example to us all. Compassionate Communication in action.. You are the real deal and I feel blessed to be on your list!
Laura Peters, Marin, California
Thanks for showing me and the group yesterday the potential for compassion and empathy inside each one of us. You mirror the universal Love that is our true nature. ~hugs and gratitude
I wanted to make sure you knew how incredibly blessed and thankful I am to have met you. I have recently had a struggle determining the true intent of new people I have met, and have been somewhat saddened by the inauthenticity of people I have looked to for guidance, learning and friendship. However, you have warmed and filled my heart with your trueness, your generosity and your pure delight in living an authentic life. I am so blessed to know you (my eyes just filled with tears!!), and I hope this week is just the beginning of a life long friendship.
Heather Collins, Louisville, Kentucky
My prayers go out to you while on your journeys. I had such a great time talking to you! Multiple times everyday since we’ve talked, Ive been reflecting on all that we talked about. I am taking the time to breath and reassess the situation from the perspective of the giraffe. It has helped me see all sides to my conversations, though I’m still trying to work on my inner Jackal. Just who you are has inspired me so much, just your positive vibe has helped me feel so relaxed. Sometimes I feel like I’m walking on eggshells when I’m talking to other spiritually oriented people, but I just felt a ‘realness’ from you that really touched my core. I so hope I get the chance to be in your presence again; you have touched my life in such a positive way. I thank you so much.
Cole Alexander, Louisville, Kentucky
Scott creates very good energy and safe space to really go deep into feelings and emotions with the intent to clear out blockages in effective communication
Charlie Sloan, San Diego, CA
I am Loving you as a friend and for the EFFECTIVE tools that you share with such heart. These tools and this conscious way of communicating gives me GREAT hope that peace is indeed possible!
Kim Summers-Bates, Louisville, Kentucky
Scott, We are sending you gratitude in amounts untold! You reach the heart! And,the tools that you teach by means of NVC touches our core. This work just gets to the ROOT of it all doesn’t it?!
Kim, Beth, Manny & Sophie, Louisville, Kentucky
Scott your workshop was amazing, I feel so much more capable and confident to be able to say what I need to in a productive way as well as have compassion for another persons intent.
Skye, Los Angeles, California
I just wanted to give you a super big THANKS for our connection and your impact on me as a CC “sharer”. Our last session gave me so much food for thought — it was a feast! One concrete thing that touched me was your baby jackal! I loved him! I have a baby giraffe puppet with a similar allure that I intend to use in my ‘puppet shows’.
David McCain, San Diego, California
I have know Scott Catamas for over 12 years. His skills as a teacher and practitioner of Compassionate Communication are of a high level of mastery. He is truly gifted. I strongly recommend him as a teacher, counselor and guide
I highly recommend Scott. His sensitivity and compassion combined with his deepening in the techniques of Nonviolent or Compassionate Communication make for a very powerful workshop and is time well spent if you want to improve your communication skills and relationships.
Sue Crane, San Diego, California
Dear Scott, A belated, but very sincere ‘thank you’ for teaching in San Diego. I get so much from your work. I appreciate your honoring my request to have a class that night. I think, for me, the biggest ‘Ah ha’ was the ‘Care-Thermometer’ (‘Care-o-meter’?) & checking to be sure that you are in a place of caring for yourself and the other before making any decision. It seems so obvious ~ once you see it. That and I know that one of the teachings has to do with being able to hear NO and to say NO. However, after that evening, I also realized that it can be difficult to hear YES (amazing) Wishing you much success with your radio show & I look forward to your next visit to San Diego.
Sharon Hinckley, San Diego, California
I love this man… He is a brilliant facilitator of connection and communication. come prepared to be in your hearts and have deeper connection to self and others!
Lakshmi Nina, San Rafael, California
Thank you Scott for your ongoing coaching and care. We had a really good talk last night. We are doing better than I thought and the and tools of Compassionate Connections is really helping. It’s not about blame anymore but helping each other figure stuff out. We talked about our most difficult issue and I just listened instead of getting defensive. I really am looking forward to seeing you when you next come down, and I’d love to know any classes you’ll be teaching. I have been listening to your radio who archives and they are so good at keeping me focused. Thanks so so much for bringing this to everyone, I have this vision of holding classes for kids that are struggling with self issues. What a different world it would be. But I’m just focusing on me right now, getting myself to keep on track.
We are so grateful to have you as a coach. We are doing great, giving appreciation and love. Also remembering about taking space. We never would have realized what a match we are and how our external situation is so challenging without you. We are celebrating all we have accomplished and how we can expand and manifest the type of relationship we want.
Aspen & Mark, Founders of Conscious Dancer Magazine
I have listened to every show on my ipod;-))) thank you Scott!” I am really appreciating the immense value of the work! Thank you so much for sharing your great teaching talents and passions for the benefit of all….
Laura Peters, Marin, California
Vladi and I LOVE what Scott Catamas and his wife Gabriele teach about managing differences in the relationship. Real stuff that WORKS…and it’s all PLAY too!
Olga, San Francisco, California